My Birth Story

Art by Amanda Greavette

On the afternoon of November 15th, a Sunday, Mark and I drove to labor and delivery at the hospital. The hope was that we would be sent right back home, but intuition told me we better pack our overnight bags. I had been leaking watery fluid for a few days by that point and had the fear that it might be amniotic fluid. Everything I read online told me I would definitely know if it was amniotic fluid but that wasn't the case for me.

At labor and delivery a quick test was done and we were told that I indeed had a ruptured water bag and would have to be admitted and induced. My heart sank. This was exactly what I did NOT want to happen. I knew induction meant the use of the synthetic oxytocin hormone called pitocin, and I also knew that in many cases pitocin was the first step in a series of interventions...the exact opposite of the natural birth I desired. To add to my dismay, my doctor wasn't there and I would have to be attended by a doctor I had never met.

Once in the delivery room, we were given permission to attempt getting labor started naturally. This came as a relief and gave me a glimmer of hope. We were provided a breast pump and spent the next 24 hours trying every natural method we could. I managed to dilate from 1cm to 5cm in that time, which is actually pretty amazing progress, but unfortunately it wasn't enough to satisfy the doctor (It was now Monday and my doctor had arrived). She was hoping I would have reached at least 8cm at that point. That is when she said that we needed to start a very small amount of pitocin to try and bring the contractions closer together. The baby wasn't showing any signs of stress, but after so many hours (days) in a leaky bag she was concerned he could get an infection. I had read over and over during my pregnancy that pitocin causes very painful contractions, so I was really upset that it had come to this. I was determined to bring my son into the world without pain medications that could leave us groggy and detached from the experience so I would just have to endure the pitocin pain. Luckily our doula was with us during this time and helped me keep it together. She talked to me between contractions and reminded me that Mark and I were the ones in control and that we had choices. Although things weren't playing out how I had imagined, she was there to remind me that it was okay.

Soon after the pitocin drip was started I could feel the contractions change. I was managing them quite well before, but now they were getting very painful. This went on for several hours but my labor wasn't progressing so my doctor broke my water and said things should really start moving now. She said we should have the baby within the next four hours. This was very exciting and I felt re-energized. But four hours came and went, the pitocin was increased, and then another four hours came and went. I felt like I had been in labor for days.

The doctor increased the pitocin one last time and put me in the SIMS position. I was in terrible pain at this point, the contractions were miserable and the SIMS position was excruciating to be in...but it worked. Within what felt like minutes of being in this position I was ready to push.

I had heard many women say that once they reached the pushing stage they felt relief, that the hard part was the hours of contractions. This wasn't true for me. Pushing was painful and hard work! I mean VERY HARD WORK. And then after maybe 20 minutes, on the evening of November 16th,  our son was ready to be born. The most rewarding part of the experience is that Mark caught the baby. He was the first person to touch Fox and was the first face our baby saw. He brought him up to my chest and I said a prayer that our son was healthy and finally in my arms. What a miracle!

A few minutes after Fox had been earth side, Mark cut the umbilical cord. Our lives were now changed forever. We had become a family.

~ Love & Light ~

The Birth Plan: Readers Questions Answered

Many of you have had questions about how I am planning my birth; and so in today's post I will answer a few of them. I guess the first thing I will say is that these are just my vision for my ideal labor and birth. I am keeping a very open mind, knowing that things often don't go according to plan, AND these are just my preferences. If you chose to or plan to birth differently, I am not passing judgement. We are all unique and so are our choices and experiences. Now to the questions.

1. By far the most frequent question I get is whether we are doing a hospital or home birth. We put a     lot of thought into this decision and even interviewed a midwife, but ultimately we chose a hospital birth. Our doctor was a major reason for that choice. She is the best! I know she will take great care of us and I'm happy with our decision. 

2. I think the next question I get is if I plan to do a natural birth. The answer is a big YES! Honestly, I am terrified of a c-section or epidural! I have never had a broken bone or a surgery so yeah, I'm a big baby when it comes to medical interventions. I'm also a realistic person, so if I feel like pain medication is necessary of course I will use it. I'm not trying to win any medals! I just want to have the best birth experience for me, and right now that means a natural non-medicated birth. 

3. Did we hire a doula? Yes! She is kind and down to earth and very supportive. Her name is Kirsten Sengupta and for anyone in the Springfield area who needs a doula, she comes highly recommended by me! You can contact her at Shanti Birth Services. For those of you who don't know, a doula is a birth assistant. Someone who has gone through formal training and is with you through the labor and birth process to offer support that ranges from massage and other natural methods of pain management, coaching you through breathing and visualizations, bringing you water, food or chap stick, help with breastfeeding etc. etc. etc. For us, one of the main reasons we hired Kirsten is for Mark. Now he has someone there to support him and give him breaks and help him to help me. Having a doula is definitely a luxury, but I like knowing we will have someone outside of the hospital staff with us who is well aware of our birth plan.

4. Will we do a water birth? I really wanted to have a birthing tub available, but our hospital doesn't allow them. We do plan to labor at home as long as possible and I will use my own bathtub. It's kind of a bummer but it wasn't a big enough issue to sway me from birthing at the hospital. 

5. Will I breastfeed? Yes. 

6. Will I keep the placenta? No. But we will do delayed cord clamping, skin to skin right after birth and no bathing, eye ointment etc. until baby has had his first feed, rooming in (that means no nursery in the hospital, the baby stays with us at all times) and we will go home as soon as we can! 

I think that about covers it. I am always happy to answer any questions you have. Have a great week and thanks for stopping by! 

~ Love & Light ~

It's Prep Time!

Moonbelly 31 Weeks

With only seven or eight weeks left of pregnancy, I have been spending some time preparing the room I plan to labor in. I'm going to use my yoga studio as the primary space, while also spending time on the deck overlooking the river. Here are the things I've been collecting for that fateful day.

Top athletes use coconut water for optimal performance.

Staying hydrated while you labor is super important and I've enlisted coconut water as my ally for that purpose. I'd also like to have some aged barley miso soup ready when the time comes.

The guest bed.

The former guest room is now the nursery, and instead of putting the bed in the basement, we moved it to the yoga studio so I can use it during labor. We ordered a waterproof bed pad to go on it in case my water breaks while I'm lying there. And yes...I was too lazy to make the bed for this photo.

The altar.

My altar is in the studio, and for the past year it has been holding items representing fertility, and birth. A nice focal point to have in the room that was specifically put together to welcome the soul who chose us as parents. When I first assembled it, it was with the intention of getting pregnant quickly and now it will be with me as my baby begins his journey earth side.

Art by Catie Atkinson 

Inspiring birth art by Catie Atkinson will be adorning the room. She is the talented woman who made my pregnancy journal. I love love love her style. Her works can be viewed and purchased at her ETSY store Spirit & Sol.

Yoga gear.

Yoga mats, cushions and blankets to assits in the many positions I'm sure I'll find myself in.

Exercise Ball.

An exercise ball to sit on and rock my hips. This is supposed to help gravity move the baby down. I actually really love this thing and know I will use it a lot even after the birth.

Lavender essential oil.

Organic lavender essential oil for diffusing. Veriditas Botanicals is my favorite essential oil company. The best.

Always need a book.

A book of yoga poses and guided meditations for early labor.

Corn bag.

My neighbor gave me one of those groovy cloth bags filled with hard corn kernels. It can be heated or put in the freezer and used cold. Very helpful little tool.

I also put a fan in the room and will probably have some New Age music streaming off Pandora. Maybe a candle or two. Or, maybe I won't care about any of these things? You can't predict the unknown, but you can plan for your vision. Do any of you have suggestions for things to make labor easier? What worked for or helped you? Ultimately I'll be having my boy at the hospital, but I plan to stay home with our doula as long as possible. I would love any ideas or inspiration you have to share. 

31 Weeks.

~ Love & Light ~